Wednesday, October 6, 2021
From their precocious first words, they were branded. At a very early age, the gifted are branded with the expectation of achievement. At a very early age, the gifted are branded with the expectation of achievement.
“Oh my gosh, he’s so smart! He’s going to go far in life!”
“Wow, her vocabulary is so advanced. She’s going to breeze through school!”
“I predict she will be a doctor, a scientist, a CEO, or our future president!”
Far too many gifted people feel the pain of that branding. It burns, and it scars, sometimes for life.
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Friday, May 15, 2020
Emotional intensity is an attribute many of us spend a lifetime coping with, successfully and not so successfully. One day, or one hour, you have overwhelming feelings of intense anguish or burdening sorrow that bring you to your knees and leave you questioning how you can possibly live through the depth of your pain. The next day or the very next hour, your emotions, an ever-swinging pendulum, sweep back to the polar opposite of the despair you were enduring before.
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Monday, May 4, 2020
Trusting my ability to read other people and their situations is something I need to accept and honor. As I look back on meaningful, traumatic, or momentous occasions where I intuited the situation or the person correctly, I should be confident in my empathic ability. If I’m honest, my empathy crosses over into the unknown, and my fact- and science-based thinking doesn’t set foot into pseudoscientific phenomena. I can only accept that my unnatural ability to perceive and intuit comes from my gift of empathy.
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Friday, January 17, 2020
But you’re gifted!
—A statement made with a hollow and misplaced tone of congratulations. The sound of sarcasm and envy, although mostly muted, feels like tiny straight pins whose pointy tips pierce the veil of that positive declaration. Yet, the implicit presumptions of a life of success and future eminence in those three words are utterly transparent. Packed into those three little words, the expectations of a gifted individual are unmistakable; you know this because you are acutely perceptive as many gifted adults are. And the heavy burden of those expectations and presumptions land squarely on your shoulders.
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Tuesday, November 26, 2019
When giftedness is not recognized as a human trait, but is regarded as a prodigious intellectual benefit, it can become a burden. When giftedness is tied to and measured by academic achievement, then giftedness is misunderstood. When the expectation of a gifted person is academic and professional success, then giftedness can cause anxiety and distress. Giftedness is a life experience, not an educational experience. Giftedness is not what one can achieve, but who one is.
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Friday, November 1, 2019
Shaming any child damages their self-esteem, delivers a significant blow to their self-confidence, and impacts their motivation to succeed in school. Once shut down and shamed, avoiding any display of their exhilaration for learning becomes the only path forward for many gifted students.
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Monday, May 6, 2019
Gifted children inevitably grow up. One of the subsequent outcomes of this process of which we know for certain: they grow to become gifted adults.
Giftedness is not a childhood condition or simply a function of education. Giftedness is a lifelong, day-in, day-out , 24-hours-a-day joy and struggle, even for gifted adults.
A joy and a struggle
And this may be true especially for gifted adults as there is a significant lack of research studies and data on adult giftedness, scant information on the behavioral aspects of giftedness in adults, and even less available support or therapeutic help for gifted adults. It’s almost as if we gifted adults don’t exist, but we do. And we are here, shining in all our beautiful, quirky, creative, curious, intuitive and intense glory.
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Friday, April 12, 2019
“Wings are not only for birds; they are also for minds. Human potential stops at some point somewhere beyond infinity.” ~Toller Cranston Somewhere back in my early childhood,…
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Friday, March 29, 2019
Nope, I never claimed to be gifted. I never believed I was gifted. I understood giftedness because I have three gifted sons and a gifted husband. I saw myself as a supporter of all of you beautifully-special people—I was on the outside looking in, but looking in with my hand and heart outstretched to all of you. Because I got you, I understood you, I supported you, and I loved you.
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Monday, March 11, 2019
“Shame is a real and potentially devastating emotion, impacting each of us at one time or another. A sense of worthlessness and an urge to hide or cover…
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Crushing Tall Poppies
